Qualms of a sleepless husband!!!

Qualms of a sleepless husband!!!

Last night, I turned ON the Geyser because I wanted to take a bath before going to bed. I usually do that these days because it is so freakin cold in Delhi right now that I dread taking baths in the morning. As it is, waking up and rolling out of the bed seems like a huge task to me and I don’t want to spoil all the chances of me going to the office by adding another task that I HAVE to do before I leave for office. You see, there are some people who have no problem in getting out of bed in the morning and they workout, make themselves a healthy breakfast (and even cook for their kids and/or husband)  have the breakfast, take a bath, get ready and then leave for work; I AM NOT ONE OF THEM!

I used to be, ONCE UPON A TIME. When I was in class 11 and I used to go to chemistry tuitions at 5:30 in the morning. I don’t know what I was thinking back then, or maybe I wasn’t thinking at all. But I used to wake up at 4:30 in the morning, by myself, without any alarm clocks! Say what? that’s right! But gone are those days. These days, I pat myself on the back if I am able to drag myself out of the bed after snoozing the alarm only once! I am not kidding and this is sometimes the highlight of my day. And especially on these cold winter mornings, I feel like I deserve an award.

But you know what I get when I am leaving for office in the morning?

A sleepy “bye-bye, see u, Could you please lock the main door from outside and then slide the key under the door?” And this is mainly because Nitin LOVES  his sleep. Forget about his wife who is going out in the cold, forget about kissing her good morning or saying I love you to make her day better. I am talking about myself in third person because I feel like it will make an impact on Nitin. Saying it directly and having a conversation with him has had no impact whatsoever. Don’t get me wrong! I am not complaining about my husband and I don’t need to. He is easily the sweetest person that I know , it is just that he can’t wake up in the morning. And I also wouldn’t ask him to but having these different work hours is making it really difficult for me. So I have to leave for office around 9:15 A.M. And I come back around 6-7 ish. And Nitin leaves for office at 12:30 P.M or 1:30 P.M. depending on his shift and comes back around 10:30 or so. And by that time, I am already in the mood to go to bed and sleep because if I don’t, then again I’ll have to struggle even more in getting out of the bed in the morning.

But still, the heart wants what it wants and so, I complained to Nitin

“I don’t really get to spend any time with you these days”

And he unapologetically said “ You sleep so early. Yesterday also we had plans to watch the movie but you slept!”

“Wait! I get up at 7:30-8 in the morning, so I need to be asleep by 12 in the night. You are not the only one who need their “beauty” sleep. Can’t you wake up a little early in the morning? I hate having breakfast by myself and then going to the office when you are still sleeping”

“You want me to wake up with you at 8 A.M?”

Yes! Pleaseeeeeeee. It’ll make my mornings a whole lot better”

“Okay! We’ll see what we can do!”

*Later that Night*

Oh wait! Before I tell you this story any further, there is something you should know. So one night, I was having my favorite milk-tea in the night and I asked Nitin if he wanted some. In order to give me company, he said that he’ll have it as well. So I made a mug for him. This delicious milk-tea. We had it while watching an episode of Modern family and after some time, both of us went to bed. Now the thing with me is, I am usually exhausted at the end of the day and fall asleep minutes after I lay on the bed. And so I dozed off to sleep, god knows when but I am sure that it didn’t take me more than 10 minutes. But because of that Milk-tea that we had, Nitin couldn’t sleep till late in the night and stayed up till 4-5A.M in the morning. Funny, isn’t it? I have never seen tea having such an effect on adults. I think it is mainly because Nitin doesn’t drink a lot of tea, so tea actually works for him and wakes him up, which is not the case with me.

So that day, I got to know that this guy can’t sleep if he has had a cup of tea before bed. And I have been making fun of him ever since. But I will get to those stories in another blog, maybe!

Now let me come to the point.

So I asked Nitin to wake up early with me in the morning so that we can spend some time together. He tried too! And by try, I mean he woke up in the morning one day and that’s it. So I complained again and this time he said:

“Just give me a cup of tea in the night. I prefer staying up all night than waking up in the morning.” So apparently, staying up all night and sleeping from 9:00 A.M. (when I leave for office) to 12:30 P.M (when Nitin leaves for office) is better than say sleeping at 12:30 A.M. and waking up at 8-8:30 A.M. with me.

What kind of a stupid logic is that? I guess I will never understand. Maybe he is just saying this because he knows that I will NEVER ask him to stay up all night. Or maybe I SHOULD! Hmmm! That’s something to think about.

But what’s the point? Because even if I ask him to stay up all night so that I can spend a few hours with him in the morning, I know he will probably do this for one night and I will never hear the end of it! EVER!

And people say that girls are drama queens! Phew!









  1. Virender singh
    January 12, 2018 / 6:11 am

    From the story it’s the only problem is that of different time schedule,
    One possible solution can be have a common timing schedule of about 2 hrs between 7:20 to 8:50 am . Sleep of about 7 hrs is sufficient,
    You can do some preparation for dinner and breakfast as well after you came from office .
    Dine together and sleep
    That way you can dine and breakfast together
    Some pending work be done by those at home
    Suggested if suits
    God bless you
    With love.

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